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…15 secrets

you must know when

you are around women…

"Body Language"

An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to university researchers) is verbal, and your body language reveals your internal emotional state Whether someone's parents just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO you can tell by observing their body

non-language

So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally

Body language consists of the following:

- Your movements They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody Move through the world doing what you want and assuming that others will follow

- The displacement of your body Your arms and legs should be spread out Don't be afraid to take up space

- Your voice It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect Don't speak too fast or strain your voice

- Your face Keep your facial muscles relaxed Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow

- Your shoulders Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage Don't raise them up like a nervous person

I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than anything you say, because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women

You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake

I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with my feet up on the table

The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home lounging on

my own couch It was as if I owned the coffee shop

The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in random small talk

(Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you This is because women generally won't risk the whole male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.)

The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a few days later

we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the night (We finally had sex in the morning.)

The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because

Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed So your mindset also follows the body language that you adopt

So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or

desperate for her attention Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself

And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself with the woman

You see, in order for a typical woman to have sex with a man, she must have feelings of comfort

It is not enough for her to simply feel attraction for the guy

Let's say you meet a girl at a 5 PM happy hour The two of you hit it off, having a great

conversation She's laughing She's interested You entrance her by telling her fascinating stories about your life The two of you have good rapport

Around 7:30, you get hungry and invite her to get something to eat Dinner goes well too Then dinner ends Now what?

Around this time, a lot of guys get confused about how to advance the interaction forward Clearly the goal is to get laid, but the roadmap is often muddled

Usually the night ends with the woman saying something like, "I had great time meeting you Call me Bye!"

Often, the need for comfort is why women like to make guys wait before sex

(If the guy's lucky, it might be only three dates, but with a lot of women, the guy can be made to wait for months.)

Fortunately, there's a way to shortcircuit that barrier I call it the "Boyfriending Technique."

If you watch couples who are in close relationships, you'll notice an interesting phenomenon The man and woman are extremely comfortable touching each other, so much so that they'll even

do seemingly gross things like brush sleep ("eye boogers") out of each other's eyes

It's a behavior that's only done by people who are completely comfortable around each other Certainly when you are in a relationship where you can brush sleep out of a woman's eye, you've long since passed the point where the two of you are comfortable having sex

Catch my drift? You can use this as a psychological weapon to make the woman feel more comfortable around you

In mid-conversation, tell her to hold still and close her eyes Pretend there's sleep in her eye, and make her believe that you just brushed it off

Later, after the two of you finish eating and leave the restaurant, again tell her to hold still With your finger, brush off an imaginary piece of food from her lower lip

The net result of the Boyfriending Technique is nuclear First, it sub-communicates that the two

of you are very comfortable around each other

Second, it involves you touching her face, bringing your heads closer together and progressing towards a make out session

Third, in the case of you touching her lower lip, you're in fact touching an erogenous zone That's right a woman's lower lip has a high concentration of nerve endings Stimulating her lower lip makes her body release sex hormones

Make the Boyfriending Technique a part of your dating arsenal, and you'll find more success than ever before You may just be having sex within several hours instead of having to wait several months

"The Fated Encounter"

Wouldn't it be nice if you could create feelings within a woman of a deep connection with you even if you two have known each other for only a few hours and without having to resort to complicated (and risky!) hypnosis tactics?

Well, good news There is a very easy, no-risk way to do this I call it the Fated Encounter Technique

Here's why it works Every woman has a fantasy from the time she was a little girl, triggered by

a constant diet of romance movies and novels, about fate bringing the man of her dreams to her

In one typical scene the guy and the girl almost bump into each other on the sidewalk Instead, fate keeps them apart, and they go their separate ways

Then, two years later, they live in the same apartment building Yet after several close calls, they still don't meet, again because of fate

The two date other people, off and on, and yet are never happy Months go by The man and the woman each ponder what it will be like when they meet that special someone, someday And then near the end of the movie, fate finally brings them together And of course they hit it off right from the start

Wouldn't it be nice if that could happen in real life, rather than having to wait through several dates before the woman finally feels comfortable enough with you to have sex?

Well, it can You can speed the seduction process and have the woman feeling deeply connected with you by using my Fated Encounter Technique I'll explain how it works

During the course of your conversation with the woman, you bring up places she has been to If you've been to those same places, you then talk about how amazing it is that the two of you could have been there at the same time and yet destiny kept you apart

Let's say, to use a recent example I encountered, that she shops at the local Whole Foods grocery store

You can then say, "That's awesome I shop there too Imagine, we've probably seen each other there all the time!"

Another example would be that the two of you go to downtown LA all the time, and probably have walked past each other on many occasions

And now, you can say, "Isn't it amazing how fate has finally brought us together?"

As the conversation progresses, the two of you can talk about other coincidences, and the things

the two of you might have done together if you'd only known each other

With the seed planted, as the girl thinks about those coincidences, and how "fate" has now brought the two of you together, she will then start to feel as if she's known you, on a deeper psychic level, for a lot longer than just a few hours

She concludes, you are the man she's been waiting for all her life

"Have You Got a Girlfriend? Here's How Not to

Screw It Up"

Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness, and then if we get dumped, we find that we've all of a sudden lost our confidence This results in being without sex for many months, until we finally get a girlfriend again, and the cycle repeats

So to break this cycle, we need to REMAIN the attractive guy, the alpha male

You see, relationships can make us guys too lazy (since the sex is so easy) and we lose that "high value" mindset It's crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says, "I am like a

Lamborghini."

Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people to like them? Of course not Instead they allow all the buyers to come to them Hell, Lamborghini doesn't even advertise As a man, you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend feels for you

So, how do you keep that alpha mindset? First and foremost, avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy dog A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call Punishment and Reward

If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove of, punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something (or someone) else If she does something you like (such as having sex with you), reward her by giving her more of your time, talking about her feelings, etc

So whenever you do something nice for her, do it because you're rewarding her And DO reward her good behavior, if you want more of it Like I said, Punishment and Reward

Then there's the issue of being a challenge Women act sweet when you're a challenge to them They act bitchy when they take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort to win your affections

Often by around month 6 in a relationship is when a woman really starts to take a guy for

granted, so avoid that by remaining a challenge

So the solution to remaining the attractive, alpha guy in your relationships is threefold:

1 Always be willing to focus your time on things other than your girlfriend Don't reward her for acting bitchy by continuing to be around her when she does On the other hand, too, reward her for good behavior by giving her more of your time when she acts sweet

2 Always have it in the back of your mind that you could end the relationship at any time Don't explicitly threaten her with that, but just make it a subtle implication That way she'll never become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep working to win you

3 Always allow her to think that's she's just a little bit more interested in you than you are in her Again, this can be very subtle, but if (for example) you're telling her 20 times a day that you love her, and she's only telling you that twice, then obviously the situation is badly out of whack

"How to Attract Girls Even if You're Short"

Let me mention a few names and you can tell me what they all have in common:

In fact, the reason they could attract girls was because of their strong inner attitude

There are a couple things you can do in the short term Wearing boots right now will subtly add 2

or 3 inches to your height

Also, when you dress, wear vertical stripes and tight clothes That will make you look

SLENDER, which will make you appear taller

Long term, one way short guys can be more dominant physically is to work out In fact that really should be first and foremost If you've got muscles, it helps A LOT, not only with your physical appearance, but also with your confidence levels, strong inner attitude, and poise So get

in the gym

When you're muscular and you're a short guy, you become like a pit bull And by the way, I'd like you to experiment with that do not always be the nice guy who's polite For the next few months, try to let your "inner badass" come out a bit when you're with girls

Do the affirmation, "I'm becoming like the pitbull who can dominate the bigger dogs."

Once you start feeling more and more confident in a few weeks, change your affirmation to, "I

AM like the pitbull who can dominate bigger dogs."

I've noticed that a lot of short guys develop a VERY strong presence by having cultivated that inner badass

Now, I'm not saying you should become a jerk but just try to balance out that inner nice guy Next thing to do long term is to GIVE UP any approval-seeking Who cares what women think

of you? Go through life doing what you want and being who you are (That is so key by the way those guys I list above were players exactly because they went through life doing what they wanted and being true to who they were.)

You see, short guys who are badasses really have a bit of an advantage Because of their stature, they automatically are able to have more rapport with chicks (who tend to be short themselves) than the guys who are beanpoles And when you add to that a bit of a "badboy" element, it makes chicks dripping wet with attraction

The bottom line is this: only if YOU feel uncomfortable with your height will it affect you with the girls If you feel completely comfortable with your height, then they will too

By the way, when it comes to tall guys, what women find attractive about them isn't their height It's their dominance If you have a tight sense of inner confidence, and project a personality that sucks them in, height will be the furthest thing from their minds

So to sum up, be true to yourself, take risks in life, cultivate your inner badass, and stop caring about anyone's approval And hit the gym ASAP And do the fashion things I said

Then you'll attract girls without worrying about irrelevant things like height

"How to Get a Girl to Like You"

We've all had that special woman in our lives You know the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face

She dates the more "adept" guys but how can you get her to like you?

While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man

attractive because of his personality A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life

Ironically, what this means is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you

That's because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value Never come from a position of neediness

So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:

1 Nonchalance

2 Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not (By that I mean, if she likes you that's

awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.) The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you Instead you should be a challenge for her

In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network Make friends with as many women as you can (Women are easy to make friends with.)

Also date as many women as you can don't restrict yourself to dating only "that one special girl."

You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is, "God, I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem

Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction Psychologically, this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon and it's much more powerful

in women than men

Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action

By the way, it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to have powerful feelings for her

Here's the key though you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as she is

If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and, ironically, makes her lose attraction to you

So, you're free to think that a woman's amazing Just remember that lots of other girls are

amazing too That way you won't become needy

So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as many women as possible those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you

"Revealed: What Women Want When It Comes to a

Guy's Looks"

As part of my research for a guide to style, I put together a focus group of 6 randomly chosen hot, single women between 21 and 33, to find out what styles in men they considered hot

My goal was to find the things that they all agreed on

The results were surprising, because the issues the women had the strongest opinions about were ones that most guys would never think of

1 YOUR TEETH Bad teeth are "just gross" said one blonde bombshell, to the enthusiastic agreement of the others

So in order to not have your teeth immediately disqualify you, keep them brushed twice a day, flossing at least once And if they're rotten or badly stained, see your dentist ASAP

However, don't go crazy with the teeth whitener "No one wants to kiss Chiclet Mouth," added the blonde

2 YOUR HANDS Women notice right off the bat if your hands are covered with dirt or grease

"If you work with your hands," said one woman, "that's not the first thing a woman should notice about you."

So auto mechanics, construction workers, and other blue collar types, listen up

"It's not what a person does," explained another chick "It's just about taking care of yourself If you can't even wash your hands, what does that say about you?"

3 YOUR CLOTHES When you're wearing jeans, leave the tennis shoes at home

"I am a believer that athletic gear is for exercise," said a part-time model in her mid-20s "Some boys wear only tennis shoes and that's just annoying It shows immaturity."

Good shoes instead are loafers or boots

Try to be neat without being anal "You should not look sloppy," said the blonde, "but don't look

so put together that you appear obsessive-compulsive."

And, be an individual, agreed the women If you've got that one shirt that only you love, you should still wear it, even if it is somewhat "uncool." For example, take a hawaiian shirt with a flamingo on it Some guy who absolutely loves it can wear that shirt

So the bottom line is that a few guys can indeed pull off wearing the tennis shoes

Sound confusing? It isn't once you realize that the simple test is this: Are you wearing clothes that display your core personality?

As one woman explained it, "You should be comfortable with what you're wearing and like what you're wearing, because women will pick up on that."

So in other words, the perfect style for you comes down to personal preferences and your

individual sense of style You can't make one rule for everything, except just be your genuine self

"Are You Making These Body Language Mistakes

With Your Hands?"

Unfortunately, what you do with your hands can be one of the quickest non-verbal ways to destroy the attraction that a woman feels for you, because the wrong hand movements can

communicate that you are a low-status, beta male

To make matters worse, your hands can be particularly tough to manage because, let's face it, when you feel nervous, the hardest thing in the world is figuring out what to do with your hands! For success with your dating and seduction of women, make sure you don't make the following body language mistakes with your hands

MISTAKE ONE Displaying your anxiety with your hands

You do this when you:

1) Shred napkins

2) Make your hands into fists

3) Sit on your hands

4) Hold something and play with it

5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs

6) Hold your hands unnaturally still

7) Sit on your hands to avoid having the woman see them tremble

Although you might be feeling nervous, the last thing you want to do is to let the woman detect you feel that way

Instead you want to convey that you're calm and in control Nothing attracts a woman more than

a man who's laid back and confident

MISTAKE TWO Putting your fingers into your mouth

When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers, you are, according to psychologists, doing the same thing that infants are doing when they suck their mother's breast

For a baby, breast feeding provides comfort When we became toddlers, our thumbs replaced our mom's nipple

And then as adults, biting our thumbnail does the same thing Ever noticed that when you're out

in public, you mainly bite your nails when you're under pressure?

THE SOLUTION Just hold your hands relaxed on the table

Rest your forearms on the table, keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward