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TABLE OF CONTENTS CHAPTER 1: Introduction To Alpha Body Langauge CHAPTER 2: The Hidden Body Language Of Leaders CHAPTER 3: Why Focus On Body Language CHAPTER 4: Quick Fixes CHAPTER 5:

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

CHAPTER 1: Introduction To Alpha Body Langauge CHAPTER 2: The Hidden Body Language Of Leaders CHAPTER 3: Why Focus On Body Language

CHAPTER 4: Quick Fixes

CHAPTER 5: Creating Passion

CHAPTER 6: Tailoring Your Speech To Your Audience CHAPTER 7: Status

CHAPTER 8: Why Handshakes Are So Important

CHAPTER 9: Reading Body Langauge

CHAPTER 10: Final Word On Body Language

Alpha Body Language

Body language and non-verbal communication make up 93% of all the signals we send out into theworld The problem is that very few people are aware of their body language and how it can impacttheir lives We spend all our time practicing, reciting, and focusing on what we say Unfortunately,words make up only 7% of the message But there are a few leaders who understand the power ofnon-verbal communication and they are currently reaping the rewards This book will teach you howthese Alpha leaders are changing the way we conduct business, interviews and sales, how we date,and even how we interact with our families Body language is a skill that can be quickly fixed andyou will begin to see numerous benefits So download now and learn how to practice the art of AlphaBody Language

Chapter 2: The Hidden Language of Leaders

Non-verbal communication is slowly being taught to managers, leaders, and salesmen across theglobe Study after study has shown a positive correlation between strong and confident body languageand stronger managers, better salesmen, and even an increase in romantic interests Throughout

evolution, we have had numerous small signals and signs ingrained in our brain that we use when wemeet new people for the first time

Within the first ten seconds of meeting someone, we automatically make a subconscious decisionabout whether or not we like that person, whether we trust them, and where they rank on a powerhierarchy amongst our peers This first impression can be the difference between delivering a clearmessage when you speak and delivering a message that is incongruent The best leaders will be

congruent with their words and their non-verbal communication, which creates a powerful one-twopunch to cement their message Our goal is to teach you how to communicate with non-verbal

communication and strengthen the power of your words

The Three Factors of Communication

When breaking down any conversation or method of communication, there are three distinct factorsthat will influence the overall power and clarity of the message you are trying to deliver Words arethe first factor that we will look at They make up about 7% of your overall message You can havethe best body language in the world, but if you are not making sense or your word structure is notclear, you will not be able to communicate effectively The good news is that most people have years

of social conditioning and communication under their belts Communication, social building, andrapport skills are usually not problems for leaders

The second factor we are going to look at is vocal tonality and how you speak your message Vocaltonality makes up around 38% of your message Many studies have shown the power of vocal rapportand how it influences your audience members Vocal signals such as pitch, speed, and common

“catchphrases” can dramatically increase your ability to create and build rapport almost immediately.While we are all subconsciously aware of vocal rapport, very few people actually practice and honethese skills

Non-Verbal Communication

The focus of this book will be on non-verbal communication, specifically body language Non-verbalcommunication makes up 55% of the signals that you use when interacting with individuals Very fewpeople pay attention to their body language, which can dramatically hamper their performance in boththeir professional and personal lives Poor body language can send mixed signals to everyone youinteract with on a daily basis This will make it difficult for you to communicate with anyone and youmay find that you have a hard time connecting on a deeper level Poor body language and posture canmake us seem depressed, anxious, and fake

In the next few chapters we will cover different body language fixes that you can implement

immediately You can change some bad habits straightaway, while others may take months or evenyears to hone Great motivational speakers and politicians spend months fine tuning their body

language to become congruent with their speeches The good news is that once you become aware ofyour body language and the body language of others, you can make the necessary changes and evenread other people’s body language more effectively

doesn’t feel right about this situation.” Since body language makes up the majority of communicationsignals, the client will eventually side with his subconscious and decide that something is wrong Ifyou can avoid cognitive dissonance and instead use body language to reinforce your message, youwill be ahead of almost 90% of the population

Trust + Rapport + Motivation = Leadership

If you are in a leadership position in your business or in your family, you need to understand the

power of the leadership formula All great leaders throughout history understood that trust and rapportare the key elements in leadership Your followers will not listen to you if you they do not trust youand if you fail to build rapport, they will question your motives Add in some motivational speechesand directly link features of your plan to how it will benefit, and you will find yourself with a strongfollowing Non-verbal communication will impact each of these three factors and can transform youinto a powerful leader

Chapter 3: Why Focus on Body Language?

We have hundreds of skills that we are constantly improving and we only have a limited amount oftime So why body language? The main reason body language is ignored and other skills are practicedinstead is first that many people think body language can be broken down into a few basic skills.Stand tall, stick your head up, and walk around with confidence Unfortunately, proper body languageneeds to be practiced day in and day out Many people have had poor posture for years and will

revert back to this poor body language once they stop focusing The goal of this book is to make sureyou are practicing proper body language from your subconscious mind This will allow you to havegreat body language at all times during the day Let’s take a quick look at how this will influence yourlife

Relationships

Non-verbal communication plays a huge role in dating and relationships When stakes are high andyou need to make a first impression, your body language will be the first signal that is interpreted.Women especially have razor sharp senses and can pick up on poor body language immediately Theywill feel like you are hiding something from them and it will be difficult to create a deeper

connection Compare that with body language that is sexy and confident, and a good first impressionwill buy you a few more minutes to make your pitch

It’s quick and easy to transform your appearance with a few body language fixes One of the mainturn-offs for both men and women is a lack of confidence Many people will hunch over, keep theirchins down, and take on an overall depressed look This can negatively impact your overall

appearance This fact gets compounded when we are in social situations, such as in bars, where wefeel anxious and uncomfortable Changing your body language can lead to an improvement in the wayyou find and form new relationships

Family

If you already have a family established, you can strengthen these relationships with body languagefixes, especially if you have kids Children naturally test your leadership skills as they always want tofeel safe and secure If you buckle under their tests, they will not respect you This leads to

misbehaving and mischief If you can display strong leadership body language, you will create a

frame that will make them feel safe They will trust your decisions and follow what you say

Children, who have yet to learn how to identify stronger social signals, are emotionally led by

cognitive dissonance They will test what you say to see if there is a conflicting message, and theywill fail to listen if they sense two different messages being communicated You can solve this

problem by using dominant body language and communicating clearly with your children

Sales

Sales is one of the few professions that acknowledges the power of body language Salesmen arealways looking for an edge and large corporations are willing to put millions of dollars towards

market and research studies These larges studies have confirmed the power of body language,

leading to the formation of large body language consulting firms In the world of sales, it is all aboutcreating a strong and clear message You need to communicate the features of your product or serviceand link them to the benefits your clients will experience Any disturbance in your pitch will result inmixed feelings and anxiety on behalf of the client Strong and powerful body language will make yourclient feel at ease and comfortable throughout the process

Management

If you are in a leadership position already, or you plan on being in a leadership position in the future,you need to learn how to project confident and powerful body language Your job as a manager and aleader is to promote confidence, inspire, and communicate effectively with your employees If youremployees are questioning your decisions, you will find a drop in workplace morale and

productivity The first step to becoming a powerful manager is to make sure you are communicatingclearly and avoiding cognitive dissonance at all costs Using body language to reinforce your pointand support your other communication channels will allow you to lead with power and ultimateauthority

Corporate Success

Just because you are not in a leadership position at the moment doesn’t mean you should ignore bodylanguage Studies have shown that employees who project confidence and leadership skills are theones that rise the fastest to management positions Even if you are in an entry level position, it isnever too early to start working on your body language Body language is also a crucial part of theinterview process Since you only have 30 minutes to make a good impression, body language willmake up a great deal of your interview Taking control of it and practicing strong body languagehabits will allow you to get the money, job, and position you deserve

in a position to succeed

Mind Frame

The last benefit of proper body language and posture is mind frame Studies have shown that yourbody language can impact your mood and how you feel during the day These studies have shown thatjust by fixing your body language, you can feel more confident This is a powerful concept that can beutilized throughout the day If you find yourself feeling down or depressed, take a look at your bodylanguage If you find yourself anxious and nervous, you are most likely practicing bad body languagehabits If you change your body language, you can also change your mood

Chapter 4: Quick Fixes

Some body language habits can take months to adjust, while others can be fixed by just consciouslyfocusing and making small changes Before we dive into the more complicated body language

patterns, we will devote a chapter to helping you fix a few bad habits so you can start to see

immediate results While these fixes are easy, you need to make sure you are consciously aware ofyour body language at all times Remember, you may have had poor body language for your entire lifeand these poor habits are going to be hard to break Make sure you pay extra attention to your bodylanguage when you feel nervous This is most likely when old habits will start to show themselvesagain

Legs

The legs provide a strong base for your body and offer you support Just like a house, if you do nothave a solid foundation, your overall appearance will be weak When standing, you want to makesure you keep your feet at shoulders’ width apart Your toes should be pointing slightly outward,which helps with your balance

A great exercise to test your foundation is to have a friend gently poke you in the chest with theirfinger If you fall backwards or need to take a step to rebalance yourself, your foundation is weak.Keep trying this test until you no longer move when poked This is the solid foundation you need andshould display throughout the day Remember, if you have a weak foundation you will have an overallweak appearance

Chest

Your chest is extremely important when it comes to body language and your overall image Your

chest is a signal of strength for males and a signal of attraction for females Failure to display properbody language habits with your chest will significantly impact your appearance The chest is alsoresponsible for regulating your breathing habits, which we will cover a bit later If you do not have anopen and exposed chest, you will not be breathing properly This will raise cortisol production inyour body and subsequently your anxiety levels An open chest promotes strong breathing patterns andwill lower your anxiety levels So if you find yourself feeling nervous, try opening up your chest andbreathing slowly

A closed chest is one of the most common body language problems that people experience Closingand protecting your chest is a natural instinct to keep your vital organs safe After thousands of years

of evolution, we naturally protect the heart, which happens to be a very important vital organ, when

we feel anxiety When we are faced with a new, dangerous, or uncomfortable situation, our first

instinct is to close our chest or protect ourselves with our arms You will see this phenomenon all thetime in clubs and other social settings Most people will block their chests with their drinks, arms, orpurses This is a key sign that they are feeling uncomfortable with the situation When you approachsomeone with a closed chest, you subconsciously display anxiety and your partner will in turn mirrorthis and block their chest This leads to uncomfortable breathing patterns and a very awkward

conversation

The best way to keep your chest exposed is to slide your shoulder blades back and stick your chestout into the air Your arms should be slightly behind your chest Having an exposed chest displaysconfidence to the world and shows that you are not afraid of any threats Take a few deep breathsthrough your chest and breathe slowly This will release your anxiety and make you feel at ease in anysituation Make sure your spine is erect and straight Whenever you begin to feel anxiety or nerves,check your chest as you're most likely closing it Always make sure you are never crossing your arms

or covering your chest with your drink, purse, or papers and folders

Arms

How you display, control, and use your arms can also signal your overall confidence level Greatleaders use their arms to animate and inspire an audience Most people have trouble with their armsand move them in short, quick motions, making them appear anxious and unsettled Worse yet, theyfeel uncomfortable resting their arms on their body and will shift their arms around trying to find acomfortable spot

Many people, especially when speaking in public, will keep their arms stiff and at their sides Thismakes them look unnatural The best place for your arms is down by your sides, directly across fromyour navel This will give you a natural look and will also help promote positive breathing habits

We recommend that you keep both arms slightly bent and touching your hips across your navel Youcan also keep your hands on your belt or in your pockets, or clasp your hands together and hold themover your navel Be sure you never raise them and block your chest We also recommend claspingyour hands behind the small of your back This will lead to your chest sticking out and is a great way

to promote strong body language

When you are engage in conversation, we highly recommend you use your arms and hands to

emphasize different points and lighten your conversation You also want to make smooth and

controlled motions with your arms and hands Acting too quickly will make you seem nervous

Always move in a slow and controlled manner Think James Bond He moves in a cool and concisemanner with as little effort as possible

Head

After your audience analyzes your base, chest, and arm position, they will begin to focus on yourhead They will analyze your head position and any head movements that you make Make sure thatyou keep your chin up and avoid dropping your head, which will signal a lower status and make itdifficult for you to lead Focusing on keeping your chin up and your chest out will quickly improveyour body language The saying, “Keep your chin up,” is popular for a reason

Controlled Breathing

The one aspect of body language that is constantly ignored, even by so called body language experts,

is breathing Breathing is imperative when you are trying to control both your anxiety levels and youroverall body image When you are feeling nervous, your body will flood your brain with adrenalineand cortisol These are the hormones that trigger your fight or flight reflexes When these chemicalsare released, you will feel anxiety, your heart rate will increase, your vocal pitch will raise, and youwill begin to speak faster All these factors will give you a nervous image Remember, we want you

to appear calm and confident You cannot achieve this image if you are not breathing properly

Breathing is a subconscious activity and very few people actually understand how to breathe

properly Unless you have taken yoga or meditation classes, you may never think about how you

breathe But if you can learn how to properly breathe, you can relax both your body and mind whenyou are feeling stress This will allow you to take your emotions out of tough decisions and insteaduse the logical side of your brain Studies have shown that when we are stressed, blood exits ourbrain and flows towards our muscles as we prepare to fight If you can reverse this trend, you canremain in control of any situation, no matter how stressful

There are many books that you can study on different breathing techniques, but we are going to

quickly go over a technique that will help you out immediately You first want to take a deep breath inthrough your nose Hold for three seconds and release through your mouth Try to breathe through yourstomach and navel region Expand your stomach when you breathe in and contract when you breatheout After five minutes of breathing through your stomach, you should switch to breathing through yourchest Expand your chest when you breathe in and make sure you slide your shoulder blades back Onthe exhale, contract your chest but keep your shoulder blades back It is very important to do theseexercises while standing and in a proper position

When you find yourself in any situation that causes you anxiety, we highly recommend you take a fewmoments to collect yourself and try this breathing exercise It can be before an interview or meeting,

or when you meet a person for the first time If you can move your breathing habits from subconscious

to conscious, you will be able to control your anxiety levels If you can control your anxiety levels,you will have a much better chance of maintaining proper body language

Deep breathing exercises will automatically relax your body and you will find yourself in a morepowerful position If you want to try an experiment, put yourself in a poor body language position andtrying your breathing exercises It will be very difficult to breathe This is the reason that poor bodylanguage can impact your entire body It constrict your breathing, which leads to poor circulation and

an increase in cortisol production It’s a downward spiral and it all starts with proper body languageand breathing habits

Switching From the Subconscious to the Conscious

The number one skill you need to develop is moving your body language habits you’re your

subconscious to your conscious control This means that you become aware of your own body

language and the body language of others without having to think about it This will not only improveyour own body language, but it will enable you to pick up on subtle clues that other people give offwith their body language This may help you communicate and decipher people’s true intentions

Try to make it a habit to analyze your body language every time you enter a new room This way,before anyone can make a first impression, you know you have your body language under control.When you are feeling anxious, you need to make a conscious decision to evaluate your body language.The more you check yourself and make the necessary changes, the faster your good habits will beinternalized

Chapter 5: Creating Passion

The best leaders throughout history have been great at creating passion and motivating any audience.Whether you are communicating with one individual or with a large audience, you need to be able tomotivate Failure to create passion will blur the message you are trying to communicate and create asense of doubt amongst your audience This chapter will be devoted to ways in which you can createpassion

Great Leaders

A common trait of a great leader is to inspire and motivate their audience when times are tough Wheneverything is going great, anyone can motivate and inspire when they have data to back up their

points When momentum is in your favor, it’s very easy to paint a grand picture for the future The test

of a true leader is the ability to motivate and inspire when times are tough No leader was better thanWinston Churchill He was able to inspire and lead a nation in spite of a terrible situation These nextfew techniques will allow you to motivate even against the worst odds

Building Rapport

In order to create passion, you first need to build rapport and make your audience comfortable.Building rapport before you start motivating will allow you to connect with your audience and makethe motivation part much easier

Facial Expressions to Build Rapport

Using facial expressions to build rapport is one of the most powerful techniques at your disposal Inboth intimate and large settings, utilizing your facial muscles will allow you connect with your

audience

Eyebrows

The eyebrows also play an important role in developing facial rapport with your audience When weare familiar with the person we are talking to, we automatically raise our eyebrows This gives theimpression that we are warm, open, and interested in what that person is saying Unfortunately, amistake that most people make is keeping a cold face with minimal eyebrow movement This is

usually due to high levels of anxiety But if you make it a habit to raise your eyebrows when you arespeaking to someone, it can have a dramatic impact on how warm your face appears You will alsofind that the person you are speaking to will mirror this interaction and your conversation will begin

to flow with less effort