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A Book of Quotations

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Dictionaries generally define "friend" as one with whom one enjoysmutual affection and regard, "friendship," the relationship between

friends Whatrelativelybland,innocuous definitions forwords that

in-spire somuch passion inthe pagesthat follow Friendship isa conceptalways influx,withasmanyinterpretations as individualswhocountits

blessings and disappointments So it is not unreasonable to add that

friendshipseen inthislightcan be quite a controversial subject—with

a preponderance ofproponents and many detractors as well In tion to the negative and positive musings it inspires, friendship in amyriad offormsmayalsobediscernedhere Notonly friendshipinthe

addi-mostgeneral sense, butwoman-woman, woman-man, summerships (characterized by "fair-weather friends")—even animal-human

friend-friendships—are singled out for special approbation or scorn or both,

again, depending upon the particularpointofview

Contradictorysentiments emanating from the same individual may

at firstglance appearoddor inexplicable,butareeasilyexplainedaway

by the ever-changing nature ofhuman experience; or bythe fact thatmanyof these quotations derive from a contextin their original source

which most readers can only guess at, but lose nothing of the ring of

truth in beingbroughthere in a more distilledform

As thiscollectionamplydemonstrates,greatmindsoftenseem to

dif-fer radically when meditating upon friendship But notalways For

ex-ample, it is safe to say in the spirit of the consensus, that money and powerare at leastobstaclesifnotdownrightenemiestofriendship; that

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no friendshipcan be calledtrue unlessfirst tried by adversity; and that

no oneshouldtrusta reconciled friend.And, once ina while,notonly

dothese cogitatorsagree inconcept, theyactuallyconvergeinsplendid

detail; to wit:

Walpole (1717-97): Ifoneofmyfriendshappensto die, I drivedownto St.James

Coffee House,andbringhomea newone.

Byron (1788-1824): Letnomangrumblewhen his friends fall off,

As theywill dolike leaves at the first breeze:

Whenyouraffairscomeround,one wayor t'other,

Goto the coffee-house,andtake another.

One friend in a lifetime is much; two aremany; three hardlypossible.

Friendship needs a certain parallelism oflife, a community

ofthought, a rivalry ofaim.

Henry Adams

Talking with a friend is nothing elsebut thinking aloud

Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by

doubling ourjoy, and dividingourgrief.

The friendships of theworld are oft

Confederacies in vice, or leagues of pleasure;

Ours has severest virtue for its basis,

And sucha friendship ends not but with life.

Greatsouls by instinctto each other turn,

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Atrue friend is one soul in two bodies

In poverty and other misfortunes oflife, true friends are asure refuge The young they keep out of mischief; to the oldthey are a cpmfort and aid in theirweakness; and those in the

prime oflife they incite to noble deeds

Cosmus, duke ofFlorence, was wont to sayof perfidious

friends: That we read thatwe oughtto forgive our enemies; but

we do not read that we ought to forgive ourfriends/

A man cannot speakto his son but as a father, to his wife but

as a husband, to his enemy but upon terms; whereas a friend

may speakas the case requires, and notas itsorteth with theperson

You may take sarza to open the liver; steel to open the

spleen; flowers ofsulphur for the lungs; castoreum forthebrain; but no receiptopeneth the heart but a true friend, to

whom you may impartgriefs, joys, fears, hopes, suspicions,counsels, and whatsoeverlieth upon the heartto oppress it,

in a kind ofcivil shriftor confession

The best preservative to keep the mind on health is the

faithful admonition ofa friend

The worst solitude is to be destitute of sincere friendship

There is little friendship in the world, and leastofall

between equals

Those thatwant friends to open themselves unto are

cannibals oftheirown hearts

FrancisBacon

Nothing so fortifies a friendship as a beliefon the part ofone

friend that he is superior to the other

Honore de Balzac

No friend is a friend till he shall prove a friend

Beaumont & Fletcher

Having said, from our respective pointsof view, the worstthing we can say about each other, having uttered the ultimate

insult, there's no reason we can'tbe friends

S. N Behrman

It is well, when one is judginga friend, to remember thathe

is judging you with the same godlike and superior impartiality

Arnold Bennett

To live happily with other people one should ask ofthem

only whatthey can give

Tristan Bernard

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his

life for his friends

The Bible (New Testament)

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Afaithful friend isthe medicine oflife.

Afaithful friend is a strong defense: and he that hath found such an one hath founda treasure

Afriend loveth atall times, and a brother isborn for

adversity

Forsake not an old friend, for the new is not comparable to

him A newfriend is as new wine: when it is old, thou shaltdrink itwith pleasure

ofhis friend

Faithful are the wounds ofa friend

Wealth maketh many friends

The Bible (Old Testament)

Friendship: Aship big enough to carry two in fairweather, but only one in foul

Acquaintance: A degree of friendship called slightwhen its

objectis poor and obscure, and intimate when he is rich and famous.

While your friend holds you affectionately by both your

hands, you are safe, foryou can watch both his

Ambrose Bierce

Friendship is a word, the verysight ofwhich in print makes

the heartwarm.

Augustine Birrell

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Ourfriends seethe best in us, and bythatveryfactcall forththe best from us.

John Black

The poor make no new friends:—

But, oh! they love the better still

The few our Fathersends

Helen SelinaBlackwood (Lady Dufferin)

Friendship! mysterious cementof the soul!

Sweef ner oflife, and solderofsociety!

Robert Blair

The bird a nest, the spidera web, man friendship

Thyfriendship ofthas made my heartto ache:

Do be my enemy—for friendship's sake

I was angry with myfriend

I told mywrath, my wrath did end

I was angry with my foe:

I told it not, my wrath did grow

William Blake

Friends are like fiddle-strings, they must not be screwed too

tight

Few there are that will endure a true friend

He thatceaseth to be a friend never was a good one

H G Bohn

Friendship:A Bookof QuotationsKindred weaknesses induce friendshipsas often as kindred

virtues

False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us as we

walk in the sunshine, but leaving us the instantwe cross intothe shade

Hand

Grasps athand, eye lights eye in good friendship,

And great hearts expand

And grow one in the sense ofthis world's life.

Whateverthe numberof a man's friends, there will be times

in his life when he has toofew

Edward George Bulwer-Lytton

I would rather have five energetic and competent enemies than one fool friend

Luther Burbank

Love comes from blindness, friendship from knowledge.

COMTE DE BUSSY-RABUTIN

Afriend who cannot ata pinch remember a thing or two

thatnever happened is as bad as one who does not know how

to forget

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept

A man's friendships are, like hiswill, invalidated by

marriage — butthey are no less invalidated by the marriage

ofhis friends

The dead beingthe majority, it is natural that we should have morefriends among them than amongthe living

Samuel Butler

I have found that a friend may profess, yet deceive

Friendship is Love without his wings!

Let no man grumble when his friendsfall off,

As theywill do like leaves at the first breeze:

When youraffairs come round, one way or t'other,

Go to the coffee-house, and take another

But the poor dog, in life the firmestfriend,

The firstto welcome, foremostto defend

Lord Byron (George Gordon)

Firm I can meet, perhaps return theblow;

Butofall plagues, good Heaven, thy wrath can send,Save, save, oh! save me, from the candid friend

George Canning

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Do you wantto make friends? Be friendly Forget yourself

Dale Carnegie

Friendship, in the old heroic sense ofthatterm, no longer

exists; it is in reality no longer expected or recognized as avirtue among men.

Friends through fortune become enemies through mishap.

Geoffrey Chaucer

stages—firstan acquaintance, nexta mistress, and only then afriend

Anton Chekhov

Most people enjoy the inferiority oftheirbest friends

There are a good manyfoolswho call me a friend, andalso

a good manyfriendswho call me a fool

G. K Chesterton

Every murderer is probably somebody's old friend

Agatha Christie

Greatly his foes he dreads, but more his friends; he hurts me

most who lavishly commends.

Winston Churchill

Love is the attempt to form a friendship inspired by beauty

You must . love me, myself, and not my circumstances, if

we are to be real friends

Afriend is, as it were, a secondself.

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Friendship makes prosperity brighter, while it lightens *

adversity by sharing itsgriefs and anxieties

Cicero

A woman's friendship borders more closely on lovethan

man's Men affecteach other in the reflection ofnoble orfriendly acts; whilst women ask fewerproofs and more signs

andexpressions ofattachment.

Alas! theyhad been friends in youth;

But whispering tongues can poison truth

Flowers are lovely; Love is flower-like;

Friendship isa sheltering tree

Old friends burn dim, like lamps in noisome air;

Love them forwhat they are; norlove them less,

Because to thee they are not whatthey were

Samuel Taylor Coleridge

To accept a favourfrom a friend is to confer one

John Churton Collins

Friendship often ends in love; butlove in friendship—never

Our verybest friends have a tincture of jealousy even intheir friendship; and when they hear us praised by others, willascribe it to sinisterand interested motives ifthey can

Ifyou want enemies, excel others; ifyou wantfriends, let

others excel you

Charles Caleb Colton

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There arethree friendships which areadvantageous, and

three which are injurious Friendship with theupright;

friendship with the sincere; and friendship with the man of

much observation; these are advantages Friendship with the

man of specious airs; friendship with the insinuatinglysoft;

and friendshipwith the glib-tongued; these are injurious

Between friends,frequent reproofs make the friendship

The man that hails you Tom orJack,

And proves by thumping on your back

How he esteems your merit,

Is such a friend, that one had need

Be verymuch his friend indeed

To pardon orto bearit.

How sweet, how passing sweet, issolitude!

Butgrantme still a friend in my retreat,

Whom I may whisper, Solitude is sweet

I would not enter on my list offriends,

(Though grac'd with polish'd manners and fine sense,Yetwanting sensibility) the man

Who needlessly sets footupon a worm.

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What is a Friend? I will tell you It is a person with whom

you dare to be yourself

Frank Crane

Good fellowship is common, but unchanging affection is

not

Clarence Day

The bestwayto keep yourfriends isto never borrow from

Afriend to all is a friend to none.

"AnotherI."

DiogenesLaertius

Generallyspeaking, amongsensible persons, itwould seem

that a rich man deems thatfriend a sincere one who does not want to borrow his money; while, amongthe less favored with

fortune's gifts, the sincere friend is generally esteemed to be theindividual who ready

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A female friend,amiable, clever, anddevoted, is a possession

morevaluable than parks and palaces; and without such a

muse, few men can succeed in life, none be contented

Forfriendship, ofitselfa holy tie,

Is made moresacred byadversity

The wretched have no friends

John Dryden

There are no friends at cards or world politics

FinleyPeter Dunne

Friendships which are born in misfortune are more firm and

lasting than those which are formed in happiness

Thomas D'Urfey

So, if I live or die to serve my friend,

Tis formy love—

'tis for myfriend alone,

And not for any rate thatfriendship bears

In heaven or on earth

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Friendship should be more than bitingTime can sever

Friendships begin with liking or gratitude—roots thatcan be

pulled up

Animals are such agreeable friends Theyask no questions,theypass no criticisms

George Eliot

We want but two orthree friends, butthese we cannot do

without, and they serve us in every thought we think

A man's growth is seen in the successive choirs ofhis friends

Afriend is a person with whom I may be sincere Before him, I maythink aloud

Better be a nettle in the side ofyour friend thanhis echo

The condition which high friendship demands isability to

do without it.

Afriend may well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature

experience

Friends, such as we desire, are dreams and fables

Friendship, like the immortalityof the soul, is too good to be

believed

Happy is the house that shelters a friend

I do then with my friends as I do with my books I would

have them where I could find them, but Iseldom use them.

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The only wayto have a friend is to be one

Oh, be myfriend, and teach me to be thine!

The only reward ofvirtue is virtue; the only way to have afriend isto be one

I hate the prostitution of the name of friendship to signify

modish and worldly alliances

We take care ofourhealth, welay up money, we make our

rooftight and our clothing sufficient, but who provides wiselythathe shall not be wanting in the bestproperty ofall—friends?

respects, and not crushed into corners Friendship requires

It issublime to feel and say of another, I need never meet, orspeak, or write to him; we need notreinforce ourselves or send

tokens ofremembrance; I rely on him as on myself; ifhe didthus or thus, I know it was right

A dayfor toil, an hourfor sport,

Butfor a friend is life too short

In prosperity it is veryeasy to find a friend; in adversity, ing is so difficult.

noth-When our friends are present we ought to treat them well;

and when theyare absent, to speak ofthem well

Epicti n s

When ill befalls, a friend's kind eye beams comfort

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Life has no blessing like a prudent friend

Euripides

Promises may get friends, but it isperformance thatmust

nurse and keep them.

Owen Feltham

It is in thethirties thatwe wantfriends In the forties we know theywon'tsave us any more than love did

F. Scott Fitzgerald

A woman-friend! He thatbelieves thatweakness steers in a

stormy nightwithout a compass.

John Fletcher

Old dog Tray's ever faithful;

Grief can not drive him away;

He is gentle, he iskind —

Til never, neverfind

Abetter friendthan old dogTray!

Stephen Collins Foster

Afalse Friend and a Shadow attend only while the Sun

shines

Abrother may not be a friend, but a friend will always be abrother

There are three faithful friends— an old wife, an old dog,

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Be slow in choosinga friend, slower in changing.

Benjamin Franklin

The beauty ofenmityis insecurity; the beauty of friendship

is insecurity

Robert Frost

A reconciled Friend isa double Enemy.

Even reckonings keep long friends

All arenotfriends that speak us fair.

He's a friend that speaks well on's behind ourbacks

Be a friend to thyselfand others will be so too

Friendship that flames goes out ina flash

He is my friend thatsuccoreth me, not he that pitieth me.

Ifyou have onetrue friend you have more than yourshare

May it pleaseGod notto make ourfriends so happyas to

Make not a bosom friend ofa melancholy soul: hell be sure

to aggravate thy adversity, and lessen thy prosperity He goes

away heavy loaded: and thou must bear half

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A broken friendship may be solder'd, butwill never be

sound.

Thomas Fuller

"Whatis the secretofyour life?"asked Mrs Browningof

Charles Kingsley "Tell me, that I may make mine beautiful,too." He replied: "I had a friend."

A woman's friendship ever ends in love

From wine thatsudden friendships spring

Friendship, like love, is buta name.

An open foe may provea curse,

But a pretended friend is worse

Tisthus that on the choice offriends

Whofriendship with a knave hath made,

Is judg'd a partner in the trade

John Gay

True friendship comes when silence between two people is

comfortable

Dave Tyson Gentry

Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an

opportunity

Kahlil Gibran

What good is a friend ifyou can't make an enemyofhim?

And what is friendship buta name,

A charm thatlulls to sleep:

A shade that follows wealth orfame,

Butleaves the wretchto weep?

Friendship is a disinterested commerce between equals; love,

an abject intercourse betweentyrants and slaves

Friendshipsthat are disproportioned ever terminate in

disgust

He castoff his friends, as a huntsman his pack;

For he knew, when he pleased, he could whistle themback

Friends are a second existence

Awise man gets more use from his enemies than a fool from

his friends

Baltasar Gracian

A favourite has no friend!

Thomas Gray (ona favouritecat drowned)

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Afriend is one with whom we are fond ofbeing when no

business is afoot nor any entertainment contemplated.

Better to trustan open enemy thana reconciled friend

Robert Greene

Friendship cannotlive with ceremony, nor without civility.

It is a misfortune fora man not to have a friend in the world,

but forthat reason he shall have no enemy.

Lord Halifax

He who has made the acquisition of a judicious and

sympathetic friend, may be said to have doubled his mental

resources

Robert Hall

Green be the turfabove thee,

Friend ofmy better days!

None knew thee butto love thee,

Nor named thee butto praise

I have no trouble with my enemies But my Goddam friends,

. theyare the ones thatkeep me walking the floors nights

Warren G Harding

We never know the true value offriends While they live we

are too sensitive oftheir faults: when we have lostthem we only

see theirvirtues

Friendship closes its eye, ratherthan see the moon eclipst;

while malice denies that it is ever atthe full.

Friendship is Love, without eitherflowers orveil.

J. C andA W Hare

Contracting a real friendship is one of the most completely

involuntary things a man can do

HenryS. Haskins

The dupe offriendship, andthe fool oflove; have I not

reason to hateand to despise myself? Indeed I do; and chieflyfornot having hated and despised the world enough.

He will never have true friends who is afraid ofmaking

enemies.

Discussing the character and foibles ofcommon friends is agreatsweetener and cement offriendship

Even in the common affairs oflife, in love, friendship, and

marriage, how little securityhave we when we trust our

happiness in the hands ofothers!

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Our friendship was so assuredthat we could be silent

without the slightest danger ofoffence

SirArthur Helps

The bestmirror is an old friend

Before you make a friend eata bushel ofsaltwith him.

It isgood to have some friends both in Heaven and Hell

George Herbert

Wilt thou my true friendbe?

Robert Herrick

Sweet is the scene where genial friendship plays

The pleasinggame ofinterchangingpraise

Burns with one love, with one resentmentglows;

One should our interests and ourpassions be,

My friend must hate the man that injures me.

Praise from a friend, or censure from a foe,

Are lost on hearers that ourmerits know.

My friend should honor him who honors me.

Two friends, two bodies with onesoul inspired

Homer

Nothing shall I, while sane, compare with a friend.

"Tis hardto find a man of great estate, that can distinguish

flatterers from friends

Wise were the kings who never chose a friend till with full

cups they had unmasked his soul, and seen the bottom ofhisdeepest thoughts

To have a greatman foran intimate friend seems pleasantto

those who have nevertried it; those who have, fear it.

True friendsappear less mov'd than counterfeit

Horace

Summer friends vanish when the cask is drained to thedregs

Horatius

Itwas notfoes to conquer,

Nor sweethearts to be kind,

But itwas friends to die for

ThatI would seekand find

A E Housman

Friendship lives on its income, love devours its capital

Arsene Houssaye

Probably no man ever had a friend he did notdislike a little;

we areall so constituted by nature no one can possibly entirely

approve ofus

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A man's best friend is seldom his neighbor

Don't abuse yourfriends and expect them to consider it

criticism

Instead of lovingyour enemies, trustyourfriends a little

better

I don't want my friendsto die for me; ifthey will be polite,

and let me alone, I will be satisfied

E W Howe

Distance sometimes endears friendship and absence

sweeteneth it.

Friendship isthe great chain ofhuman society

It is a rule in friendship, when Distrust enters in atthe

foregate, Love goes outat the postern

Make notthy friend too cheap to thee, nor thyselftoo dear

to him.

Ifyou have a friend worth loving,

Love him. Yes, andlet him know

That you love him, ere life's evening

Tingehis brow with sunset glo

Ofa friend till he is dead?

Your friend is the man who knows all aboutyou, and still

ikesyou

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Friendship: To do unto someone thatwhich you would not

allow him to do unto you

Afriend that ain'tin need isa friend indeed

The fellowthat callsyou "brother" usually wants something

that doesn't belong to him.

Kin Hubbard

Afriend married is a friend lost.

The cosdiness ofkeeping friends does notlie in what one does for them, butin what one, out of consideration forthem,

refrains from doing

HenrikIbsen

Whenever a man's friends begin to compliment him about

lookingyoung, he may be surethatthey thinkhe isgrowingold

Sweet is the memory ofdistant friends!

Like the mellowrays of the departing sun,

It falls tenderly, yet sadly, on the heart

WashingtonIrving

The firstthing to learn in intercourse with others is

non-interference with theirown peculiar ways ofbeing happy,

provided those ways do not assume to interfere byviolencewith ours

WilliamJam

I find friendship to be like wine, raw when new, ripened withage, the true old man's milk and restorative cordial

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An injured friend is the bitterest offoes

I find as I grow olderthat I love those most whom I loved

To men and angels onlygiv n,

To all the lower world denied

Friendship, compounded ofesteem and love, derives from one its tenderness and its permanence from the other

Friends are often chosen for similitude ofmanners, and

therefore each palliate the other's failings because they arehis own.

through life, he will soon find himselfleftalone A man .

should keep his friendship in constant repair

Always set a high value on spontaneous kindness He

whose inclination prompts him to cultivate your friendship ofhis own accord, will loveyou more than one whom you have been atpains to attach to you

I love the acquaintance ofyoungpeople; because in the first

place, I don't like to think myself growing old In the nextplace, young acquaintances mustlast longest, ifthey do last;

and then young men have more virtue than old men; they have

more generous sentiments in every respect

The enduring elegance offemale friendship.

It is as foolish to make experiments upon that constancy of afriend, as upon the chastity ofa wife

Mostfriendships are formed by caprice orby chance— mere

confederacies in vice or leagues in folly.

The great effect of friendship isbeneficence, yetby thefirst

The longer we live, and the more we think, the highervalue

we learnto put on the friendship and tenderness of parentsand

friends Parents we can have but once; and he promises himself

too much, who enters life with the expectation of findingmanyfriends

The mostfatal disease of friendship is gradual decay, or

dislike hourly increased by causes too slender forcomplaint, and too numerous for removal.

A friend may be often found and lost, but an old friend

never can be found, and nature has provided that he cannot

easily be lost.

Samuel Johnson

Consists not in the multitude offriends,

But in the worth and choice Nor would I have

Virtue a popular regard pursue:

Let them be good thatlove me, though but few

Friendship is too pure a pleasure fora mind cankered with

ambition or the lustofpower and grandeur

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The fortune thatmade you a king, forbade you to have afriend It is a law of nature, which cannot be violated with

impunity

Junius

Friendship is the hobby-horse ofall the moral rhetoricians; it

is nectar and ambrosia to them.

Immanuel Kant

"Tis sweet, as yearbyyear we lose

Friends out ofsight, in faith to muse

How grows in Paradise ourstore

John Keble

Love and friendship exclude each other

One faithful Friend is enough for a man's self; 'tis much to

meet with such an one, yetwe can'thave too many forthe sake

ofothers

Two personswill not be friends longifthey cannotforgive

each other little failings

In friendship we see only those faults which may injure our

friend; inlove we see only those which injure ourselves

Jean de La Bruyere

Atrue friend is a pearl He reads

Your deepest needs

And so sparesyou the shame

Ofgivingyour heart's hidden desires a name.