People like good news.. Share your good stories, even if you got plenty of awful, sorrow experiences to share.. Appreciate a good quality in your friend, make sure you find one and tell
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1 People like good news So, be a good-news carrier
2 Smile often - smile or laugh when you can, while you are on the phone
Your friends would actually see you
3 Share your good stories, even if you got plenty of awful, sorrow
experiences to share
4 Appreciate a good quality in your friend, make sure you find one and tell
them clearly Everyone wants a genuine praise Genuine praise NOT flattery
5 Call just to say, 'Hi' Often such short conversations make you feel happy
and the receivers would return the same to you on another occasion
6 Learn to tell stories Make yourself funny
7 Know the time, know when to stop your conversation Do not bragg your
exploits after calling at 12 midnight
8 Remember what your friend likes Relate things Tell them you
remembered because, some related thing happened in the News today
9 Remember dates Remember few important dates, like birthdays and
anniversaries.[This is for myself]
10 Buy some inexpensive gifts (set a limit of $1 or $2) when you go to
another city or country This makes a huge difference
11 Write small post-it notes for your room-mates or workmates, for no
reason
12 Talk more often Speak out Do not be afraid to call people Only when
you make phone calls, you will receive them
13 Want instant karma? Write a testimonial for your friend in a social
network site Orkut, Facebook or MySpace Do not use the boring adjectives such as caring, sincere, friendly etc Instead, tell a story on where you met them, some unforgettable trip / incident, what did you think of them, etc
If you have a blog, write a post about one of your friends Privacy, an issue? You can still hide personal details and let your friend know you have written a post about them
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take a work colleague to your college party or vice-varsa
15 Practise a pretty introduction speech for you Can you tell me in 30
seconds why you are the person everyone would love to hand around with
Make few funny introduction stories You will win plenty of new friends, this way
16 Develop an interest in everything You may not need to follow F1
racing, but at least know what are the main stories and key figures involved Read news, watch telly serials - just to get few hints to start conversations Be
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17 Ask questions When your friend is talking, ask questions to get more
details This is one way to let them know that you are really interested in their talk
18 Open-ended questions work like a charm Do not ask, 'YES / NO'
questions, instead ask people's opinion
19 Invite your friends for a dinner Host a dinner at your home, at least a
Bring-n-Eat lunch or Dinner
20 Play a sport Don't be a couch potato If you don't know any outdoor
activity, at least take up 'Walking"
21 Meet people based on common-interests This is by far the easiest way
to make new friends Book-lovers, photographers, bloggers and what-not, if you share a common interest with a stranger, you can instantly talk about the common interest and you will no longer be a stranger
22 Promote yourself This can be practised at a very low intensity, you can
share a story how you saved someone's day by being their friend It is not everyone's cup-of-cake
23 Be confident, encourage people If someone tells a problem, encourage
them that it will be alright and you are confident that they would overcome
24 Pray for others You can thank God for sending good people along your
way Even, if you don't believe in God, you can send some good thoughts
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25 Do NOT spread gossips or bitch about someone Initially, people would
be interested but, they would loose your credibility
(If you have heard a good gossip (a promotion or a compliment) about a friend, share that with them and this is a lot better than bad mouthing)
26 Do NOT remind your friends about the days they forgot (birthday or
anniversary) [This is for my friends]
27 Do NOT blackmail your friends Do not threaten saying, 'Do this, only if
you are my friend' NO NO
28 Do NOT share other's secrets with anyone else If one of your friend
tells a confidential thing for you, do NOT bragg or talk about it others Respect the trust
29 Do NOT use the poems and power point shows created by someone
(Forwarded Emails) to show your friendship and affection You know what? They have become obsolete and chances are high that the same email would have been sent by 20 other friends
30 Do NOT argue Personally, I found that by winning an argument, only me
ego gets satisfied but, I would have hurt the opponent's heart
31 Do NOT ask personal things Unless they tell something on their own.
32 Do NOT make fun of your friend in front of strangers People are
sensitive, so, know the limits Friendly digs can bring pleasure but, if you are making it big, then you are building an army against you
33 Do NOT share old jokes, worn-out metaphors and cliched expressions
Yes, we know them already where you pulling them from So, best way to tell
a jokes is to make up a story, from your own life Even, if no one laughs at your story, you can have your punch line as , "I made-up the story, didn't work, looser!'
34 Do NOT complain
35 Do NOT try to impress with false information One day, you will be
caught red-handed