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Chapter 4

Coping Processes

The Concept of Coping

or tolerate the demands created by stress”.

1 People cope with stress in many ways.

2 It is most adaptive to use a variety of coping strategies.

3 Coping strategies vary in their adaptive

value.

Common Coping Patterns

1.Giving up

– People may develop learned

helplessness – “passive behavior

produced by exposure to unavoidable aversive events”

– Sometimes, could then be transferred to

situations in which the person is not really

helpless

– This then creates a passive reaction to

stressful events, rather than active problem-solving

Common Coping Patterns, continued

Giving up, continued

• Cognitive interpretation of aversive

events may determine whether we feel

helpless or not.

– People with a pessimistic explanatory style view aversive events as “out of their

control”, feel helpless, and give up

– This coping strategy is called behavioral disengagement and is associated with

increased distress

Common Coping Patterns, continued

2.Acting aggressively

– Frustration caused by stressful events

may elicit aggression, “behavior intended

to hurt someone, either physically or verbally”

– People often act out toward others who

had nothing to do with their frustration

– Using a substitute target in this manner

was called displacement by Freud.

Common Coping Patterns, continued

Striking out at others, continued

• Freud believed aggressive acts could release pent-up emotional tension and

called the process catharsis.

• However, research finds that acting

aggressively produces more, not less,

anger and aggression.

Common Coping Patterns, continued

3.Indulging yourself

– When stressed by events that are going

poorly, some people seek out alternative sources of satisfaction:

• Excessive eating, drinking, and smoking;

• gambling & drug use; and

• Internet addiction – “spending an

inordinate amount of time on the Internet and inability to control online use” (see Figure 4.4)

Figure 4.4 Measuring addiction to the Internet The questions on Young’s (1998) Internet Addiction Test highlight the traits that make up this syndrome You can check to see whether you exhibit any signs of Internet addiction by

responding to the items and computing your score.

From Young, K.S (1998) Caught in the Net: How to recognize the signs of Internet addiction – and a winning strategy of recovery New York: John Wiley Copyright © 1998 John Wiley & Sons, Inc This material is used by permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc.

Common Coping Patterns, continued

4.Blaming yourself

– People often become highly critical of

themselves when stressed

– Albert Ellis called this catastrophic

thinking, which involves

• Attributing failures to personal shortcomings;

• Focusing on negative feedback; and

• Being overly pessimistic about the future

• This pattern perpetuates negative

emotional reactions to stress.

Common Coping Patterns, continued

5.Using defensive coping

– Defense mechanisms are “largely

unconscious reactions that protect a person from unpleasant emotions such as anxiety and guilt”

– Defense mechanisms shield us from

emotional discomfort caused by stress

– However, most involve a degree of deception, a distortion of reality.

self-Common Coping Patterns, continued

Defense mechanisms, continued

• Defense mechanisms are considered

normal, and can operate at various levels

of consciousness.

• Can they ever be healthy?

– Generally, they are not, because

• They are avoidance strategies;

• They often involve “wishful thinking”;

and

• Some have been linked to poor health

Common Coping Patterns, continued

Are they healthy?, continued

– Sometimes, however, they are useful for

severe stress because they buffer us from

extremely negative emotions

• (e.g., unrealistic optimism may benefit a terminally ill patient.)

Constructive Coping, continued

• Constructive coping - “refers to efforts to

deal with stressful events that are judged

to be relatively healthful”.

• Constructive coping involves

1 Confronting problems directly

2 Effort

3 Realistic appraisals of stress and coping resources

4 Learning to recognize and manage

disruptive emotional reactions to stress

Constructive Coping, continued

Constructive coping involves, continued

5.Learning to exert some control over

potentially harmful or destructive habitual behaviors.

– There are three main categories of

constructive coping strategies (see Figure 4.6):

1.Appraisal-focused

2.Problem-focused

3.Emotion-focused

Figure 4.6 Overview of constructive coping tactics Coping tactics can be organized in several ways, but we will use the classification scheme shown here, which consists of three categories: appraisal-focused, problem-focused, and emotion-focused strategies The list of coping tactics in each category is not exhaustive We will discuss most, but not all, of the listed strategies in our coverage of constructive coping.

Appraisal-Focused Coping, continued

• In Ellis’s A-B-C model (see Figure 4.7), he

explains how our appraisal (or beliefs

about stressful events) is critical to the coping process.

– Negative appraisals (or beliefs) are often associated with catastrophic thinking,

which exaggerates the magnitude of our problems

– Positive (realistic and/or optimistic)

appraisals allow constructive coping

Figure 4.7 Albert Ellis’s A-B-C model of emotional reactions Most people are prone to attribute their negative emotional reactions (C) directly to stressful events (A) However, Ellis argues that emotional reactions are really caused by the way individuals think about these events (B).

Appraisal-Focused Coping, continued

• The roots of catastrophic thinking

– Unrealistic, negative appraisals stem from irrational assumptions we hold:

1.“I must have love and affection from certain people.”

2.“I must perform well in all endeavors.”

3.“Other people should always behave competently and be considerate of me.”

4.“Events should always go the way I like.”

Appraisal-Focused Coping, continued

• Catastrophic thinking can be reduced by

– Learning to detect it when it occurs

– Learning to dispute irrational assumptions.– Defusing stressful situations with humor.– Reinterpreting stressful situations in a

more positive light

Appraisal-Focused Coping, continued

• Humor as a stress reducer

– Humor can lessen the negative impact of stress on mood for many reasons:

• It creates a more positive appraisal

• It increases positive emotions

• It facilitates positive social interactions, which reduce stress

• See Figure 4.9 for more information

Figure 4.9 Possible explanations for the link between humor and wellness Research suggests that

a good sense of humor buffers the effects of stress and promotes wellness Four hypothesized explanations for the link between humor and wellness are outlined in the middle column of this diagram As you can see, humor may have a variety of beneficial effects.

Appraisal-Focused Coping, continued

• Positive reinterpretation can also buffer stress in the following ways:

– We can recognize that “things could be

worse”

– We can utilize “benefit finding” in a bad

situation (searching for something good in

a bad experience)

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

• Using systematic problem-solving

• Evidence shows that problem-solving skills can be increased through training (Heppner

& Lee, 2002, 2005) and by using these steps:

1 Clarify the problem.

2 Generate alternative courses of action.

3 Evaluation alternatives and select a course

of action.

4 Take action while maintaining flexibility.

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

• Seeking help

– It is often helpful to seek aid from friends, family, coworkers, and neighbors

– Cultural factors in seeking help:

• Asians, Asian Americans, and individuals from collectivistic cultures are less likely to seek help from others

• This is based in a cultural tendency to avoid “burdening” others with one’s problems

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

• Using time more effectively

– A common source of stress is feeling there

is not enough time to accomplish tasks

– Often, this can be improved by using the time we have more effectively

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

Using time more effectively, continued

1 Inability to set or stick to priorities.

2 Inability to say “no” to others’ demands on our time.

3 Inability to delegate responsibility.

4 Inability to throw things away.

5 Inability to accept anything less than

perfection.

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

Using time more effectively, continued

• The problem of procrastination

– About 70-90% of college students put off academic assignments (Knaus, 2000)

– Many claim to benefit from this tactic (e.g., saying they “work well under pressure”)

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

Using time more effectively, continued

– Desire to minimize time on a task.

– Desire to optimize efficiency.

– Close proximity to reward.

• Students often get rewarded for it.

experience more anxiety and health problems.

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

Using time more effectively, continued

• Time management techniques

1 Monitor your use of time – keep a record

to see where it all goes (see Figure 4.11)

2 Clarify your goals – decide what you want

to accomplish with your time

3 Plan your activities using a schedule –

planning saves time in the long run

Figure 4.11 Example of a time log Experts recommend keeping a detailed record of how you use your time if your are to improve your time management This example shows the kind of record keeping that should be done.

Problem-Focused Coping, continued

Using time more effectively, continued

4 Protect your prime time – announce to

others when you’re blocking off certain times to work so you won’t be interrupted

5 Increase your efficiency Try these tips:

– Handle paper once

– Tackle one task at a time

– Group similar tasks together

– Make use of your “downtime”

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Enhancing emotional intelligence

– Emotional intelligence – “the ability to

perceive and express emotion, use emotions to facilitate thought, understand and reason with emotion, and regulate

emotion”

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Emotional intelligence has four

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Expressing emotions

– Efforts to actively suppress emotions,

especially anger, tend to increase stress and physiological arousal

– In contrast, “emotional disclosure” is

associated with better mood, more positive self-perceptions, and better health

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Managing hostility and forgiving others

– When we feel “wronged”, our natural tendency is to seek revenge or hold a grudge

– Forgiving others goes counter to these instincts, but is associated with better adjustment and well-being

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Exercising

– Regular exercisers have increased emotional control and less emotional distress (Oaten & Cheng, 2006)

– To achieve maximum benefits, follow these “rules”:

1.You must want to exercise

2.Engage in aerobic exercise

3.Exercise on a regular basis

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Using meditation and relaxation

– Meditation – refers to “a family of mental

exercises in which a conscious attempt is made to focus attention in a nonanalytical way”

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Meditation benefits, continued

– Increased activity in the prefrontal cortex, which indicates a focusing of attention

– Lower levels of stress hormones

– Lower anxiety

– Better mood

– A sense of control

Emotion-Focused Coping, continued

• Using relaxation procedures

– One well-known technique is Benson’s

“relaxation response” Four factors are critical (see Figure 4.14):

1.A quiet environment

2.A mental device (or focal point)

3.A passive attitude

4.A comfortable position

Figure 4.14 Benson’s relaxation response The relaxation procedure advocated by Herbert Benson

is a simple one that should be practiced daily.

From Benson, H., & Klipper, M.Z (1975, 1988) The relaxation response New York: Morrow

Copyright © 1975 by William Morrow & Co Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers.

Application: Coping with Loss

• Death is a taboo topic in our culture, so

Americans cope with death anxiety

through avoidance.

• This is facilitated by the death system – “

the collection of rituals and procedures used by a culture to handle death”.

– Individuals with well-formed philosophies about death have less death anxiety

Application: Coping with Loss, continued

• The process of dying

– According to Kubler-Ross (1969, 1970), people evolve through five stages as they confront their own death:

Application: Coping with Loss, continued

• Bereavement and grieving

– Bereavement – refers “to the painful loss

of a loved one through death”

– Mourning – refers “to the formal practices

of an individual and a community in

response to a death”

Application: Coping with Loss, continued

• The grieving process

– Bowlby (1980) describes grieving as a four-stage process:

• Stage 1: Numbness

• Stage 2: Yearning

• Stage 3: Disorganization and Despair

• Stage 4: Reorganization

Application: Coping with Loss, continued

• Grief after the death of a spouse can take various forms:

– Absent grief: low levels of depression

before and after the spouse’s death

– Chronic grief: high levels of depression

before and after the spouse’s death

– Common grief: increased depression

shortly after the spouse’s death, followed

by a decrease

• Common grief is not, in fact, the most

frequent pattern (see Figure 4.15).

Figure 4.15 Five reactions to spousal loss Researchers gathered data on 205 older individuals prior

to spousal loss and 6 months and 18 months following spousal loss Ninety percent of the subjects exhibited one of the five bereavement patterns shown in the figure Contrary to popular belief, “absent grief” or the “resilient pattern” was the most frequently experienced reaction, while “common grief” occurred relatively infrequently Traditional views of grief hold that the “common grief” reaction is the only healthy response to loss, but numerous studies contradict that view (Adapted from Bonanno et al., 2002)

Application: Coping with Loss, continued

• Coping with various types of loss

– Mental health professionals offer the

following advice:

• Seek support while you are grieving

• Care for your own emotional needs