The noble truth about platonic relationships between men and women

There is no other disparity more glaring than the issue with “We are just friends” between men and women.. True story: There are more times than I can remember, asking a female friend if

The noble truth about platonic relationships between men and women.

There is no other disparity more glaring than the issue with “We are just friends” between men and women And it never ceases to amuse me how men and women can look at the same situation from two completely different angles

True story: There are more times than I can remember, asking a female friend if she’s seeing that guy whom she’s been spending time with, and her instant response would be “God no we’re just friends!”

Right there! Her justification to be able to continue hanging out with him comfortably without any social stigma stick up her bottom: that she has no sexual tension, that she simply just doesnt see him “that way”

I could place a million-dollar bet that if the guy was asked about the nature of their relationship, his answer would be something along the lines of “I haven’t hit that yet, but why not if I get the chance?!”

As much as I’d love to believe differently, the sad truth is, men and women cant just be friends

No matter how altruistic and pure-intentioned we think we’re capable of being It just doesnt work that way

A woman can look at a male in her life and gently labels him with the “friend” tag, with no intention of removing that tag, ever! (The dreaded infamous Friend Zone) While a men will look at that same woman and labels her “a chick he’s just yet to sleep with”

So in keeping with hat honesty, here’s my confession: I’ve always been a girl who enjoyed hanging out with the boys more than my own gender Sure, I have lovely girl friends who I thoroughly

appreciate and value That type of female camaraderie is precious! But that said, with very few exceptions, I’ve always been more comfortable amongst the Y chromosomes Room full of dudes?

My favourite place to be Room full of females? My own personal version of hell Even still, I’m under

no delusions about the nature of our “friendship” And any women out there who isnt aware of it, well you should be At least then you’ll be conscious about keeping things appropriate

I honestly dont mean to sound disparaging to my fellow females, but there are things we just cant disagree on: Guys are moer low maintenance, transparent and they carry with them very little drama We, on the other hand, can be finicky, passive aggressive and tend to place ourselves and our friendships into a social hierarchy in which inevitably someone gets left out And to top it all, of course, the dramas

So standing from where I am right now, I totally understand why some woman gravitate towards guy-time We just need to realize and keep in mind that the sexes have entirely different games in mind

But going back to the statement that we cant just be friends, there is actually the second phrase that finishes it off (thank God!) “ unless one of these 4 things is at play” Once one of these is

activated, then the male/female friendship can absolutely exist in perpetuity And here goes:

1- You’re taken

If either of you are taken, or previously has, over the duration of your friendship, thus preventing the proper timing needed to act on your sparks, its a fair game

2-You’ve already in some way, consummated that attraction

Be it a drunken make out session or a full-blown hook up, sometimes thats all you need Once the thrill of the chase is over, and you’ve reached that (sometimes anti-climax) pinnacle, men and woman can go back to being friends But that doesnt promise no encore

3-That huge obstacle that places either of you right flat into the “Off-limit” category

He’s charming, and sensitive, but he’s also your ex’s bestfriend She’s a total 9, and so is your bro’s sister That, or one of you is flat out not attracted to the other Like you’d rather hook up with your cousin than get with him/her, that would make it easy to hang out without getting into anything Also, sucks to be them, for what its worth

4- You just havent hooked up yet, but it’s coming

Oh-wells

True friends are really hard to come by And however you may see this post, please, always give a thought or two about their feelings Peel the layers, strip it all down to the very basic qualities of the friendship, and you’ll know exactly what kind of nature that relationship is

Be aware, act wisely